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Wellness in the Headlines
(Don's Report to the World)
Dr. Sol Gordon is Professor Emeritus of Child and Family Studies at Syracuse University and former director of the University's Institute for Family Research and Education. He is renowned for his insight, humor and frank approaches to matters of sexuality, family studies, relationships, religious fanaticism, At-Risk Youth and suicide prevention, among other topics.
He has authored many splendid books, including Why Love is Not Enough, The Teenage Survival Book and How Can You Tell If You're Really in Love? He is a popular guest on TV, including Oprah, 60 Minutes and The Today Show. Most impressive of all, he is a long-term subscriber to the Ardell Wellness Report.
I interviewed Sol a while back about ideas as expressed in How Can You Tell If You're Really In Love? This interview can be found in the interviews section of the Wellness Center at SeekWellness.com - go to http://www.seekwellness.com/wellness/interviews/gordon.htm.
Today, I want to summarize a few of Sol's ideas about topics addressed in his books, speeches and in the course of extensive political actions, only a few of which I got around to in the earlier interview.
All of Sol's work in animated by certain underlying, repeated themes, which he expresses in varied contexts. For instance, Sol insists parents must provide moral guidelines or basic standards of good behavior. These are of value even when young people do things parents wish they would not do. As most recognize, adolescents usually choose to engage in sex without their parents' consent. Of course the parent would prefer no sexual encounters, but the reality is parents don't always get their wishes in these regards--and effective communication of sound moral guidelines will boost the chances that experiments are not disastrous.
Examples of the standards Sol promotes are:
As with other healthy choices, modeling is the best way to help children develop healthy attitudes about sex. Sol makes these points:
Sex is a subject many are uncomfortable discussing in a meaningful way, especially with children. As he often notes, sex is perhaps the only area of human life where some believe ignorance is preferable to knowledge. People who feel good about themselves are not available for exploitation and do not exploit others. Children who feel loved, secure and capable are more likely to make responsible, informed decisions. Promoting self-esteem among at-risk children requires that we be creative AND that we know these children.
It's impossible to summarize the thinking of a man with a million great ideas about so many topics, but here are fourteen of them. As the author ofÂ the book 14 Days to Wellness, I'm partial to a 14 point summary, addressed to discussions of sexuality but applicable to all interactions with young people.
Be well. Look on the bright side--especially if you are the parent of one or more adolescents!Domain: purpose
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