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Wellness in the Headlines
(Don's Report to the World)
Lots of things, of course, but we differ in the choices we make, usually unconsciously and to some degree to fit in with the kind of choices others around us are making. This applies to the kind of mates we seek, the material things we desire and all the rest of it.
I don’t wish to set off a long philosophical rant but let me put a few questions about choices for making life worthwhile to you. The point is to bring into conscious awareness what you most appreciate.
Let’s start at home. Is it the company of your mate, parents or children? Is it the sensations associated with conversations with those in the family group? Or, is it somehow related to nature? Perhaps it’s an experience, such as eating, laughing or certain emotional thrills? Maybe the “best of life” sensations come from achievements or acquisitions? Or, perhaps from nurturing your artistic or other talents?
More likely it’s a combination of some of these and other events, circumstances, experiences and feelings.
Consider a quite modest path to making life worth living—explore and discover on a daily basis how to have more feelings consistent with what I and my Australian comrade Grant Donovan have described as “the WO phenomenon.” (That is, the “wellness orgasm,” or little pleasures throughout the day.)
Start with the kind of sensations associated with good conversations.
Good conversations take many forms. Think of special moments related to nature. Think of others associated with experiences, such as eating, laughing or emotional thrills? How about conversations that touch on achievements or acquisitions? For the most part, conversations involve combinations of these and many other experiences. Whatever the topics, a first step in shaping the nurturing conversation is becoming mindful of the specific topical sources that bring you WOs. Do this and you are on your way to finding more health and happiness in a sick, medicalized world.
What are the highlight elements that have made your life seem worthwhile so far?
Making Life Worthwhile
Here’s what I think—the things that make life worthwhile and cherished are not the watershed moments. They are not your highlights or notable achievements, successes and/or milestones. They are not the highlight successes that are most likely to turn up in your obituary. That home run you hit as a kid that won the game and got you carried off the field? It probably won’t make the cut. That ceremony and the ensuing raucous reception when you married the prettiest girl or the handsomest man on the planet? Nope. How about the arrival of your first born, winning a valuable prize at a game of chance or scoring big time with someone for whom you had lusted for years?
Forgetaboutit—none of these or experiences like them is likely to have been a prime factor in making your life worthwhile.
Of course these kinds of events were spectacular and thrilling at the time. But, the watershed epic and triumphant moments, wonderful though they were at the time, are too few to enable or sustain well-being in the sense we’re describing. No matter how smart, successful, rich, handsome, beautiful, famous or fortunate you might have been, the spectacular and thrilling are spaced too far apart to secure an expanding, WO-level of health and happiness that is within your reach.
To attain and sustain well being in the richest sense of the phrase, you need daily fixes. The surest path to getting them, to abundant uplifts every day filled with multiple WOs, is the path of well conversations. A life worthwhile and fulfilling is one of daily exuberances of the natural kind—multiple WOs.
Another term for multiple WOs is DBRU equivalents. Read about DBRUs.
Be well and always look on the bright side of life.
For information on obtaining my new book about this concept, the title of which is Wellness Orgasms: The Fun Way to Live Well and Die Healthy by Exploring the Secrets of REAL Wellness, write my co-author, Dr. Donovan at firstname.lastname@example.org
(Ed. Note: Views expressed in this and other columns are those of the author and not necessarily those of the SeekWellness Editorial Board.)
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