my mother had a stroke 2 years ago (DOB 5.1.43) and has not fully accepted she suffers from incontinence. i am seeking help to help her. i have a one year old daughter and hate to visit Mum because the house is so dirty. Mum only wears Tena Lady pads when she goes out. She really needs full incontinence pants ALL THE TIME but neither i nor my brother can get her to accept she needs to wear them. she also needs new carpets as the house reeks of ammonia. do you know how i can get an incontinence nurse to get in touch with my mother to help her. she will not listen to me or my brother. I hope you can help with some advice. many thanks